Flawed. & (still) worthy.
Hey y'all welcome back to my blog, I hope you guys are having an awesome Sunday! Today I'm doing my first ever #askLily post where you guys can send me your problems, questions, etc. (anonymously or not) and I will respond and give you my advice to the best of my ability. I hope to do these posts roughly every Sunday.
Yesterday after I launched #askLily on Instagram a girl direct messaged me with this problem:
"So my bestfriend recently got a boyfriend ,and now all of a sudden she is being rude to me. She told me not to talk to her while she is with her boyfriend. I understand that she doesn't want a third wheel ,but she could have been nicer about it."
Your bestfriend getting a boyfriend can be hard. Now instead of you and her, there is a boyfriend too. She might blow you off to hang out with him. Or in this case, she won't talk to you when they are together. All these things aren't easy to adjust to. Especially when you're used to her being your person, the one you tell everything ,and do everything with,
Here's 3 things you might want to think about...
#1, Tell her, after all maybe she is just caught up in her new relationship. She can't read your mind maybe she truly doesn't know she's hurting you. Give her a chance to make it right by talking through it. If she's truly your best friend she will not want to hurt you.
#2. If it is you who feels threatened by the boyfriend, talk to her tell her your concerns. Then try to get to know her boyfriend ,or make an effort to hangout with them. Not as third wheel ,but as friends with him and her. Show her you can hangout with them and have fun.
#3. But after all, true bestfriends can last a life time, middle school and high school boyfriends probably are not forever. Just remember that in middle and high school forever friendships are more important than temporary boyfriends.